Forget about "closure." You can recover without closure, even if you carry some grief with you as you go on. Recognize the loss that a breakup has given you and allow yourself time to grieve. You've most certainly suffered a great deal of loss, and your grief may have turned to rage. Let go of your rage and desire for vengeance; vengeance is not a way to healing. Instead, let love help you forgive your ex-girlfriend or -boyfriend for what they did.
Healing requires risk. It requires venting. It requires letting go. And it requires faith. Faith in yourself, faith in your ability to move forward, and faith in God or whatever higher power you believe in. Without risk, there is no recovery. Without venting, there is no healing. Without letting go, there is no growth. Without faith, there is nothing.
So yes, you can heal without closure. You just need to be willing to risk all we hold dear, trust in your ability to rise from the ashes, and have faith in yourself and others.
8 Heart-Healing Strategies
Six ways for letting go without closure are provided below.
Starting the healing process
Family Therapist Suggestions for Rebuilding a Broken Family
7 Ways to Let Go of the Past
How to Forgive and Let Go Make a decision to let go. You're not going to do it in a second, or even in a day. Consider the advantages and disadvantages. What issues is this discomfort causing you? Recognize that you have a choice. Empathize. Recognize your responsibilities. Concentrate on the current moment. Allow tranquility to infiltrate your life. Feel compassion for yourself.
When you let go of resentment, you release your hold on the past and future. From this space, you can more freely receive love and happiness.
Forgiveness is an act of love. It frees you from attachment to others' behavior and allows you to see them as they are - deserving of respect and kindness even if they have wronged you. The more you forgive, the less you hold onto anger and guilt. This in turn creates a healthier environment for you to live in.
So how do you forgive someone who has hurt you? First, acknowledge what they have done. Is it possible that they did it out of ignorance? If so, then you should try to educate them about appropriate behavior. Have a conversation with them about why what they did was wrong. Ask for their apology.
But what if they didn't know any better? What if they don't feel guilty? In this case, you need to look within yourself. Have you been holding onto some resentment or anger toward them? If so, recognize it. Accept it.