These Twelve Steps, which were practically word-for-word adopted from Alcoholics Anonymous' Twelve Steps, have served as a spiritual growth tool for millions of Al-Anon/Alateen members. At meetings, Al-Anon and Alateen members share the personal lessons they have learned from practicing these steps with one another. As members grow in understanding and experience, they are encouraged to add new insights and ideas to the steps.
The first three steps of AA's program are very similar to the first three steps of Al-Anon's program. The fourth step of both programs is also very similar, but the remaining steps are different. In fact, not only are the remaining steps different, but so is the order that they are listed in. This shows that the men who wrote down these principles on which Al-Anon was founded had a different idea about what should come first in terms of spiritual growth than did the men who wrote down the original twelve steps of AA.
Al-Anon accepted Alcoholics Anonymous' Twelve Steps "word for word, with the exception of the twelfth step," altering the word "alcoholics" to "others" ("we tried to carry this message to others"). Its name is derived from the first two letters of the phrase "Alcoholics Anonymous."
How did Al-Anon come about? In 1952 a group of alcoholics decided they didn't want just any old support group; they wanted one that was focused on them, specifically. They asked Bill Wilson, the man who founded AA, if he could come up with some way to distinguish their group. He suggested they use his last name as its moniker. Thus was born Al-Anon, which means "the family or friends of an alcoholic."
Today, Al-Anon offers support to families and friends of alcoholics, as well as people who live with or care for addicts. The organization also provides information on local groups that can help those in need.
Al-Anon's slogan is "A Family Affair, Focused on Recovery." While the majority of members are spouses and children of alcoholics, individuals who were once addicted themselves are also welcome. In fact, the only requirement to join Al-Anon is a desire to help others.
The number one reason people join Al-Anon is to find a better way forward for themselves and their families.
What exactly is Step 12? The twelve step of Al-Anon is "attempt to spread the word to 'others,'" whereas the twelfth step of Alcoholics Anonymous is "to alcoholics." However, the premise remains the same. You must strive to help others in order to fulfill all 12 stages.
Why is this step necessary? Because alcoholism is a disease that can never be cured, but only controlled. Thus, an alcoholic cannot stop drinking on his or her own. They need help from others who have gone through what they are going through now.
Anyone who wants to recover from alcoholism/addiction. A person does not have to be in a relationship with an alcoholic to go through these steps; even if you are not directly affected by your loved one's addiction, you can still benefit from taking this step.
How do I start this step? First, you should understand that everyone who has gone through addiction has had a different experience. Thus, there is no right or wrong way to proceed with these steps. You should simply follow whatever process feels right for you.
Once you have decided how you want to move forward, the next step is to find a group that meets near you so you can attend meetings and talk about your experiences. These groups are very helpful because they provide support and encouragement for each other's journeys.
Alcoholics Anonymous' 12 Steps These 12 stages are explained in the Big Book's Chapter 5, "How It Works." The steps assisted each of the AA co-founders in their personal recovery from alcoholism and have continued to assist countless others in their battles with addictions.
The first step is called "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable." This admission is so important that it is stated again at the end of Step 1. By admitting that they were powerless over alcohol, individuals showed that they were willing to consider change. They realized that if they wanted to stop drinking, they needed help.
The second step is called "Forgiveness." Alcoholism has killed many people close to us, including family members and friends. If we hold this against those who drink, we will never be able to move on with our lives. So, the next time you catch yourself thinking something negative about an alcoholic, take a moment to ask yourself if you're really helping them by holding this attitude toward life.
When we admit that we are powerless over alcohol and forgive those we have held responsible, we are also giving them a chance to make amends for any harm they may have caused us. For example, if someone you know has been arrested for drunk driving, you should try to accept their apology and give them another chance.
The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon Making amends with individuals who may have been affected by your alcohol or drug usage is the eighth step. This is an opportunity to grow and enhance your connections with your friends and loved ones, which can only benefit you in your recovery.
Amends are changes that should be made to right a wrong. When someone has been injured because of our actions, we have the responsibility to make repairs if necessary, so that they will not be harmed in future encounters with us. Amending ourselves means changing our behavior to match their expectations. We do this by apologizing for our mistakes and by showing them that we have changed since the incident occurred.
In addiction treatment programs like AA, making amends is a vital part of healing from the effects of alcoholism and other substance use disorders. In addition, it can help people improve their relationships with family members and friends. Last, but not least, making amends can help repair the damage done by our alcohol or drug use and enable us to move forward with our lives.
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